🌿 This Isn’t Our Story—But It Could Be Anyone’s

At the time of this writing, this isn’t something we’re walking through personally with Claire or Peter. That isn’t meant to sound proud or pious—just grateful that we haven’t had to cross this bridge yet. Still, I want to be vigilant and ready.

Recently, a dear friend shared about a situation where her child seemed to be in a truly good match with another child from a family they deeply respected. It looked hopeful. It felt kind. But because kids are still growing emotionally and developmentally, the relationship started to fray—not from drama, but from timing.

These are the exact words I shared with her—the advice I would give my own children if they ever found themselves in something that might be a wonderful match someday, but is simply too soon right now. The goal is to give the children involved language and tools to gently dismantle things now, so they can protect the connection and, in the right season, rebuild with the physical, mental, and emotional maturity it deserves.

💬 If You’ve Found Yourself in a Relationship Too Early

Sometimes kids find themselves “in something” before they meant to be. Here is a word‑for‑word script your child can use to step back with kindness while protecting the friendship:

💬 Gentle Exit Script

“I really like you and I think we could have a future someday. But if we keep going down this road, I fear we may not be able to stay friends—and your friendship is what’s most important to me. Can we agree that we both really like each other and try again to be close like we are now in a couple of years? Let’s be good friends until then. I don’t want things to ever be weird between us.”

• Affirms the connection (no shaming or minimizing)
• Sets a clear boundary without blame
• Leaves the door open for the right time

💬 When Others Are Teasing or Egging It On

Peers (and sometimes adults) love to narrate a story: “You two are totally going to get married!” That can create pressure where kids are just trying to be good friends. If your child senses this could be a good match someday but knows it’s not time, try this:

💬 Confident Deflection Script

“I think we could be a good match or couple too—but we shouldn’t talk about it until we’re ready for those things when we’re older. For now, we’re just trying to be good friends and not rush into anything.”

• Signals maturity and self‑control
• Protects the friendship from outside pressure
• Kindly invites others to drop the jokes—for now